Well , its sad really when you check your social media
inboxes and dms and you see the msgs of plea piled up for you for just A HANG
OUT . Not dating pls , HANG OUT! And you only end up ignoring most because your
mind belongs somewhere else , with someone else to be precise . Now , the problem doesn’t lie in the fact that
your interest (almost looking like
obsession) lies with someone else , the problem is that interest is not mutual.
Its painful enough that he doesn’t care , what is actually more
painful is the fact that there far better guys after you that you somehow
do not find attractive at all just
because of him . Have you asked yourself why you cant get over this person that
seemingly doesn’t give a fuck how you feel ? Why you tend not be able to move
on even after multiple insults and advices from your friends that know the
details of this weird relationship?
The heart will
always present you with emotions but the mind presents you with facts and
reality ; so its real simple , stop going with your heart and start going with
your brain , this will lead you to ACCEPTING REALITY. Facts presented by your
brain will let you know what you’re doing wrong and why you cant move on . Hence
, the reasons he would never respect you ;
Guys need emotional balance (even the so called fuckboys) .When you finally get tired of calling and msging and he doesn’t call or msg too , you just suddenly receive a call or msg notification and he starts apologizing , telling you how much he misses you and viola! You start blushing . Pls stop doing that , you only make yourself look like a plaything . At that moment , he needs emotional presence from someone that really cares about him and your name is the first that will definitely come to mind which explains the call . Once you’ve provided what he needs for a couple of days , he goes off again ( A reoccurring use and dump scenario ). IGNORE THAT URGE TO PICK THE CALL , IGNORE THAT URGE TO REPLY THE MSG . From there , your heart can start detaching
You don’t say no to sex
Hello ! Listen to your brain ! Am sure each time he calls you once after every 3 weeks to come chill because he misses you , your brain actually tells you “This dude is just horny “ . Kindly stop chilling in a futureless relationship , respect yourself .
We all naturally
believe in second chances , maybe a third chance but 4th , 5th
? Am sorry , but you actually just being delusional . Your heart will always
want to try again but its only right for you to stop hurting yourself , those two weeks of happiness he provides
you with in 6 long months is not enough to make you stay . 2 weeks is not
enough to be sure of change , never accept change until you notice consistency.
You keep letting him come back:
There is something more worse than always being available , its actually MOVING ON (or so you thought ) and allowing him to come complicate your life again . Sadly , practically everyone is involved in something like this ; that one individual that will always come back to fuck your life up over and over again . Its highly unhealthy , let an EX be an EX , let a dead crush be a dead crush . Please stop reviving something that will keep twisting your life and your new relationships.
You let him know how important he is to you:
Don’t get this wrong , this is not encouraging zero emotions and professing your love to your partner . But be on the safe side , dudes get comfortable easily ; Once there is no need for pursuit or keeping up ,a typical man/ guy will relax . He will stop being sweet , caring, romantic and all once he figures that you’ll stay without complaints no matter worth . Sentences like ‘I CANT DO WITHOUT YOU’ are absolutely unnecessary as they can lead to trouble . Keep up a balance , show love when love is shown , be firm , not uptight . Let him know the importance of MUTUALITY and he will appreciate you .
Not every dude is bad , the psyche of a man is just not
that simple to understand . You might actually be the one encouraging him not
to care through your actions . Do what is right and you will be duely respected
as a woman.
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